08 October 2010

Man up.

The average age of video game users is 35. Men ages 18-42 will change jobs 11 times. In the last twenty years, there has been a 100% increase in the number of men in their twenties and early thirties living with their parents. Every second, $3,000 is spent on porn.

"Church Planter" by Darrin Patrick from Crossway on Vimeo.

It's time to man up. It's time to put down the video game controller. It's time to commit. It's time to move out. It's time to quit porn.

It's time to respect the women around us. When Saul had his servants ask David to marry his daughter, David responded, "Do you think it is a small matter to become the king's son-in-law? I am only a poor man and little known."

David's humility is an example for us all. We all pursue daughters of the King. Do you think that is a small matter? Are you ready to become the King's son-in-law?

Men, we need to step up to the plate. We need to set boundaries and take responsibility for breaking them. We need to lay our lives down for women. We need to lead, to protect, to prepare.

It is no small matter, this life we're called to live. Are you ready?


  1. I watched this the other night when you posted it on FB. I find it interesting that the blame was placed on the shoulders of the pastors. Interesting take when one considers the drop in church attendance and religious connection over the past 3 decades. If sociology has already established that fathers aren't available to model for their sons, and this writer says pators are dropping the ball, where do young men turn? And how do we get them back into the church to hear the message in the first place? Thanks for sharing the link.

  2. Brett Satkowiak09 October, 2010 08:15

    I've got mixed feelings about this too. I get the "man up" thing, I do. And I totally agree that there is a "man crisis" in today's society. Not only in the fact that men themselves aren't living up to their responsibilities, but also that we've lowered the expectations of them, and allowed women to come in and fill the gaps, placing the burden of our lack in leadership upon them.

    However, I'm with Elise. I don't know if this video was made intentionally for pastors, or anything, but to assert that the solution is to get better pastors. I'm not really behind that. As a future pastor myself, I will attest to the fact that if pastors aren't living up to their responsibilities (or at least trying to), then they're not very good examples. But the role of passing on these ideas to future generations, teaching others, holding each other accountable, etc. falls on men, not on pastors. Placing the burden on pastors absolves the rest of masculinity of their shortcomings. It allows them to sit on the sidelines and wait for the pastor to change them, rather than step forward and make a change themselves.

    Cool discussion, Nathan. Thanks for posting it.

  3. I think the video was made for pastors... and I think it is pastors whose job it is to challenge the men in their congregations. I think his point about pastors setting the example is the most powerful: if the pastor doesn't walk the talk, he's hard to follow. In fact, he shouldn't be a pastor.

    It's the job of fathers to raise their sons into men, but it's the job of pastors to teach and challenge - to pastor - fathers.

  4. "It's time to respect woman." No kidding. Christians and their Bible have been keeping us down for quite some time.

  5. Just came across your blog and found it something! First off, such beautiful poetry. Second, I feel that with the crisis we have we need to see pastors step outside the comfort zone or congregation and reach out to their communities, make their presence know regardless of the population of their town. The spiritual needs of men in many religions have not been met for many years, plainly, men do not attend wives/mothers do, I wonder why? I see this in the Catholic churches for many decades, I question why? It's so very sad it tears my heart that young men do not see the need for God in thier lives, it must change! Lori

  6. Thanks, Lori. I've seen those same problems in churches in Latin America. I suppose there are many and complicated reasons for it, but that doesn't mean we can afford to stand by and let the problems continue.